by Wayne Munchel, LCSW   0 Comments

Developing resilience may be one of the most important impacts providers can have on emerging adults, but what exactly is resilience and what the hell can we do about it?

Resilience has been defined as the ability to “bounce back”. When it comes to many youth and young adults, that bouncy quality has often been flattened by grinding adversities, toxic stressors, and repeated traumatization. Some experts focus on improving the personal, “internal” skills and qualities that contribute to resiliency, such as problem-solving, emotional regulation and positive self-talk. Others emphasize the quantity and quality of a youth’s social supports, adult allies and community connections. Several studies point out that the single most important factor that prevents tolerable stress from becoming toxic stress is the presence of positive, “buffering” relationships.

If marginalized, stigmatized, you-name-it-ized youth and young adults are discharged from TAY services with the same levels (or less) of social support as when they arrive, our impacts will likely be very limited and short-lived. It’s been noted that during this transitional period, social supports tend to decline – just as the social demands of finding housing, roommates, romantic partners and work increase. Those turbulent cross-currents can push vulnerable youth toward a life of poverty, isolation and disability. Many TAY programs identify their primary goals as increasing the independence and self-sufficiency of young people, but these objectives can be misguided and culturally incongruent. Except for some doomsday preppers living in Montana, we are INTER-dependent — we rely every day on others to get our basic needs met. We are wired for relationships and need to be needed.

Each TAY program should develop clear community integration strategies that create opportunities for youth to meet people and expand their circles of support with peers, allies and mentors. School and work remain the primary pathways for social inclusion and connectedness for youth (discussed in previous blogs), but a very low percentage of youth with serious mental health conditions are accessing these crucial, developmental experiences. We must redouble our efforts on building bridges to education and employment, but what additional pathways can be identified?

  • Finding faith communities — many youth may identify spirituality and religion as important to them, but have not joined any congregation or faith community. Mapping out what local churches, mosques, synagogues are available (and which offer Youth clubs, Movie and Spaghetti nights etc…) and providing coaching on introducing oneself and starting conversations (when needed) can be helpful.
  • Connecting interests, hobbies & passions to communities — whatever the interest or hobby may be, there are others who share it. MeetUp, Instagram and Internet searches can frequently identify where other like-minded people gather.
  • Exploring social media — recognizing that most youth can engage with a world of diverse communities, support groups and chat rooms through their SmartPhones and lap-tops. This can be an important consideration for agencies serving more rural, less densely populated communities. TAY agencies can play a helpful role by providing examples of youth-oriented web-sites, advocacy groups and Crisis Text lines.
  • Supporting housing (and neighborhoods) — building connection and community with neighbors can be a powerful (and risky) tactic. Inviting neighbors over for pizza, movies or board games has great potential (while learning to use good judgment). Many youth can find their first apartments to be very isolating and providers can coach ways to connect with neighbors.
  • Reinforcing families — care-givers, siblings and extended family represent key protective factors that can offer many opportunities for support, togetherness, meals and rides to the grocery store.
  • Joining social justice movements — getting politically active can empower and facilitate a sense of being part of something that is bigger than oneself.
  • Getting involved with arts, cultural/ethnic organizations — artistic expression from music and drama to visual arts and spoken word are powerful ways for youth to cultivate identity, find mentors and express themselves.
  • Volunteering — it’s been said that “helping helps the helper”, recognizing the value and how they can support others can greatly enhance resiliency in youth. Staff can assist by helping youth find opportunities to give back.

What ways have you found to help raise the resiliency in youth?


by Wayne Munchel, LCSW   3 Comments


Guest Blog by Brian Goldman

There is growing recognition of the need to better support, educate and mentor vulnerable LGBTQ+ youth within TAY programs. An innovative program, called the Speak Your Mind Academy was recently launched to help meet this need. Stars Behavioral Health Group partnered with the Long Beach LGBT Center and Youth in Mind (under a contract awarded by the Department of Mental Health) to train 23 enthusiastic LGBTQ+ identified young people to educate their communities on mental health awareness, stigma identification and advocacy issues. The graduates will now go out into their communities to train two 1-hour trainings based on the topics they learned in the academy.

It was an amazing learning experience for all involved. Having LGBTQ+ TAY individuals “speaking their mind” about issues that they have faced and discussing the importance of improving the quality of care for LGBTQ+ community members sends a powerful message. Adult providers can train TAY staff to gain more insight and awareness, but when it comes from the voices of our own LGBTQ+ TAY individuals, that’s when the truth, advocacy and insight become apparent. The Academy trainees will begin to train communities from their perspective, which only helps others to really grasp the stigma from a firsthand experience that many LGBTQ+ TAY youth encounter on a daily basis. The hope is that many people from different communities will hear the voices of these incredible young people, and begin to see that LGBTQ+ people are not a stereotype, which hopefully will enhance resiliency and decrease the risk factors from rejection.

TAY-aged youth face many challenges regardless of their sexuality or gender identity. Yet, at the same time LGBTQ+ youth have a higher rate of mental health issues than their heterosexual peers. This stems from the rejecting factors that many TAY-aged youth experience either from family members, their community, and society. Caitlyn Ryan of the Family Acceptance Project (based in San Francisco) has done tremendous work gathering data that demonstrates that LGBTQ+ youth from rejecting backgrounds experience higher rates of depression, suicidal ideation, homelessness, contracting HIV or sexually transmitted diseases, etc.

What can these 23 empowered youth do about this? Three simple actions: they can educate; they can support; and they can advocate. These youth can help ensure that TAY program staff are made aware how culture, religion, and our own belief systems can play a role in offering the most effective supports. By sharing their own stories and insights, they can sensitize providers to some of the unique challenges that LGBTQ+ youth are dealing with in their lives.

The Speak Your Mind Academy Trainees were vocal regarding LGBTQ+ individuals having the same legal rights, and support as any youth would need. The key factor is to refrain from shaming. Many of the Speak Your Mind Academy Trainees will say that they feel as though their sexual orientation or gender identity is the only thing some people see. They want to be seen as people who think and feel like everyone else. Yet, when faced with rejection or when negative comments are made around their sexuality or gender, that is when risk factors increase. When LGBTQ+ TAY youth are already facing rejection from family, their community and society, they will look to their TAY providers to provide that safe zone. This should be a place where they can go and be themselves while being treated with compassion, nurturance and unconditional support — and inspire 23 more LBGBTQ+ youth to speak their minds.


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Skills Baby, Skills.

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TAY and the Rat Park Experiment

August 26, 2016

Where TAY Stays

July 12, 2016